Well, we were very very very lucky. We found a "remodeling kit" that was the exact faucet model we had in the house (considering it was 27 or so years old, we felt like we won the lottery). We needed to replace the valves as they were disgusting and totally caked with lime buildup and other nastiness.
Long story short, five trips to Ace Hardware, 6 hours and $100 later we have a perfectly working shower. Oh and we had to buy TWO handle pullers as the handles were so corroded it snapped the first handle puller.

YAY!
Thanks for asking after us!
Dee.